A lot had changed over the years. It was as though, they were now strangers and did not know each other anymore . . .

They had been very good friends since they were in their senior year in secondary school. Jade and Tori were really admirable and almost never had quarrels then. They got into the same university and were living together. Now, it was as if Tori couldn’t accept her for who she was (At least, that was how Jade felt).

Yes! I know I’ve got flaws but why does she always have to point them out? Can’t we just go back to how sweet we were?”, Jade would think to herself.

The last argument they had, Jade had it up to her throat . . .

You can’t keep on telling me to change. Don’t you get tired of trying to make me change how I am?“, a very frustrated Jade said at the top of her voice. “I love you Jade and I only want the best for you“, Tori calmly said. She tried to make Jade understand that she wasn’t trying to make her feel bad but to no avail. Jade stormed off as always and muttered to herself, “Maybe this friendship isn’t worth it anymore.

Have you seen or been on a ship before? Well, I haven’t but I’ll love to share little about what I know though. A ship moves with the help of a propeller.
This propeller rotates the water particles and causes the ship to move. I guess we can safely say that the propeller does most of the work.

An anchor is used to secure a ship to the bed of a body of water to prevent it from drifting due to wind or water current. In other words, it holds the ship in place and stops it from probably capsizing.

Why the small talk about ships? It is to let us know that ships don’t automatically move on their own. Work is done whether you see it or not.

Friendship can be likened to a ship. Not just because the word contains ship but because, it constitutes more than one person, requires work and has (or should have) an anchor.

God is the author and anchor of godly friendships. He is our source and our reliable or principal support.

Woke generation! Woke generation!” Everyone is claiming to be ‘woke’.

You hear things like, “I do not need anyone in my life“, “I am fine all by myself“. Sometime ago, there were tweets flying everywhere stating, “If you do this or that, I’ll cut you off.” This is called ‘the cancel culture’ in our days. All these somehow paint a picture that we do not need friendship.

It is such a lie though because even God shows us the beauty and importance of relationships. I mean, just take a look at the Godhead. The Godhead is the perfect example of the essence of relationship.

Whether you’re a Gen Z or Millennial, trust me, this post is for you. Let me show you what the ‘new woke’ is . . .

In this post, I’ll be giving perspective to whether or not friendships are worth it. You want to keep reading till the end.

  1. What true friendship is.
  2. What to do when friendship seems to go wrong
  3. Conclusion

What true friendship is.

“Friends come and friends go, but a true friend sticks by you like family.”

Proverbs 18:24 MSG

Contrary to popular opinion, friendship is not a bed of roses. It doesn’t just go well without efforts from the people in the friendship. Friendship requires work!

As believers, God is and should be the author and anchor of our friendships. Not what the world says it should be.

An average woke person has the mindset that screams, “If it stresses me, I shouldn’t be doing it.” We often make the mistake of terming ‘work’ as ‘stress’. You see, God sometimes uses our friendships to teach us lessons and help us grow into the people He wants us to be.

Oh! Godly friendships are not all smooth too. You know why? They are made up of imperfect people moving towards perfection. Imperfect people being worked on by God. Imperfect people from different backgrounds, having different personalities, mindsets, experiences and outlooks of life generally.

Friendship is deeper than IG worthy pictures, catchy captions praising each other on your social media or making your friends happy at the expense of the truth.

Friendship is deep!

It entails moments of shared pain, tears and laughs, back and forth arguments, emotional investments, constructive criticisms, easy and hard conversations, being broken by God together, encouraging each other in down times, dealing with differences and so on. All these and more are what true godly friendship is about.

Friendship is like a rollercoaster ride.

What to do when friendship seems to go wrong

I know you get the whole point of godly friendships now. You’re probably wondering what to do when it seems like things aren’t working out though. Here are a few things you can do:

  • Give it back to God. I said this because God most likely ordained your friendship.
  • Talk about it. Communication is key in every relationship. Talk about your concerns. You can also remind each other of what God has ordained for your friendship.
  • Be patient and trust God. Prov. 3:5-6 advises us to trust God and not lean on our understanding. You may not see changes immediately but as long as God is the author and anchor, He will keep your ship afloat.


Please let me know in the comment section. I’ll love to hear from you.


You want to know the truth?

It won’t always be rosy. Neither will it always be hard to the extent that it stresses you out. Giving up is not an option.

Keep being intentional. Nurture that friendship. Seek to grow your circle and grow with it too. Find out how to grow your circle of friends. Put in all the efforts you need to make your friendship work. That is when you are truly ‘woke’.

I know you have been inspired. Please feel free to share this everywhere. Repost on Whatsapp, FB, IG and Tweet it. Don’t forget to drop your opinion on things you do when your friendship isn’t working out. I always love to hear from you.

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42 responses to “Is friendship really worth it?”

  1. Jedidah Avatar

    Friendship is one of God’s wonderful gifts to men, and when not properly taken care of, can lead to something unpleasant.

    And it’s true, most people mistake work for stress when it comes to issues like this because they like to be the center of attraction but don’t want to put in the required effort, forgetting that everything that is good and that lasts requires good intentional effort.

    Godly friendships are actually worth it, everyday and everytime because the results of such a friendship will be obvious when the time comes.

    Thank you for putting this together so we’ll Gigi😊♥️. God sustain you always!

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    1. God'sglory Braimoh Avatar

      Yes! Work sometimes, is not stress. Someone called it a ‘stretch’.

      Amen and Thank you for sharing this Jedidah!💜


  2. ailemenesther Avatar

    This is a nice and inspiring write up. Indeed, friendships requires efforts. It’s deep and it needs the help and wisdom of God as well. Thank you very much for this.

    Liked by 1 person

    1. BraimohGod'sglory Avatar

      Friendship needs God’s help and wisdom.
      Thanks for sharing and You’re welcome!💜


  3. Ifoga Favour Avatar
    Ifoga Favour

    Awesome piece!!!!!!Having great friends is one of the best things that can happen to you in life…it’s worth praying and fasting for..cos even friends sometimes “STICKS CLOSER THAN A BROTHER”….

    Great work …GI….

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  4. Ogbechie Nkechi Anita Avatar

    Nice Content, we all need friends….but not just friends, good friends, trustworthy friends, friends to some extent having same mindset with you and headed in the same direction as you….. Friends that always got your back, Jonathan kind of friends…
    Cos I am not a fan of having too much friends oh!!! … I have experienced betrayal from a person I called friend…let’s say someone I took even as a sister.

    let’s learn to discern spirits…it will help us know the kind of elements around us….it will help us no friends that are friends…


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    1. BraimohGod'sglory Avatar

      Jonathan kind of friends!
      Sorry about your experience with friends though.
      It’s so important to let God lead you in choosing your friends.
      Thank you so much for sharing!😊


  5. Gideon Winners Avatar
    Gideon Winners

    This is so inspiring. Indeed a timely armor to be shielded with.

    Liked by 1 person

    1. BraimohGod'sglory Avatar

      Glad you’ve been inspired.😊


  6. Olamilekan Akinsulure Avatar
    Olamilekan Akinsulure

    Amazing content.. Really helpful 🙌

    Liked by 1 person

    1. BraimohGod'sglory Avatar

      I’m glad you found it helpful. Thank you!😊


  7. jennirichofficial Avatar

    Wow this is so rich..thank you gloryinspires

    Liked by 1 person

    1. BraimohGod'sglory Avatar

      Thank God! Thank you too!😊


  8. Victory Aiminhiefe Avatar
    Victory Aiminhiefe

    Omo this is rich content

    This is not just of specified set of audience. This is literally for everyone as this generation really needs to know what true friendship entails.

    Kudos girl

    Liked by 1 person

    1. BraimohGod'sglory Avatar

      Yes it’s for everyone! Though, I thought the Gen Zs and Millenials will relate to it the most.😸

      Thank you!😊


  9. Ogie Daniel Avatar

    In this gen z world of cutting off friendships when the tiniest fight happens. Funny thing is, many persons are just been led on by social media contents. And…😓

    Thank you GG for this piece
    God bless you
    We can only pray that God helps us in these times ✊🙏

    Liked by 1 person

    1. BraimohGod'sglory Avatar

      Yes! It’s called the ‘cancel culture’.
      Amen! Thank you for sharing.


  10. DPaulz Avatar

    Beautiful piece God’sglory.., More Grace 🙏🏾🙌🏽

    Indeed, friends are a necessity, not just any kind of friend but helpful & Godly friends..,
    Every friendship is worth fighting for, it’s worth the little or the lot sacrifices we can bring to the table and it takes mutual commitment to keep such ship running.

    However, it wouldn’t always be rosy & we’ll definitely meet with some unpleasant moments. Well, for me.. over time I’ve learnt to create room for the inadequacies of others, we’re all humans and are sure to err, I learn to not easily give in to offences, they’ll come actually, you can’t avoid it, you just learn how to deal with it in the most healthy way as to not hurt yourselves (emotions).

    So I learnt and still learning to be accommodating enough, expand my tolerance range and apologising when at fault, opening up when wronged, not bottling wrongs within or nursing them, that’s quite toxic and could result to something else.. so I take a walk and then find the right moment to talk about the problem (when I’m in a relaxed mood, where I could control my emotions from heightening too).

    Everyone has his strengths and weaknesses, so identifying and taking these into consideration is key to our every friendship. Well, two can only work together when they agree. A mutual work ought to be at play, it could get tiring when it’s only one person that’s Intentional about keeping the bond shared intact…, Yeah, it does gets tiring. Most times, I’d give you a little space and when I feel we’re drifting apart, I usually will make the first moves.

    For some persons, making the first moves can be a problem. We learn to set it rolling regardless.

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    1. BraimohGod'sglory Avatar

      Yes! Emphasis on “Godly friends.”

      It definitely takes mutual commitment to make friendship work. 💯
      Make room too!
      Thank you very much for sharing!😊


  11. Onyeuka Anita-Precious Avatar

    A very timely post indeed
    Communication and prayer,in any kind of ‘ship’, cannot be over emphasized 📌

    Thank you for this piece GG

    Liked by 1 person

    1. BraimohGod'sglory Avatar

      Thank God and thank you for sharing.😊


  12. anitapraise Avatar

    Being too quiet or too loquacious in a relationship such as friendship is dangerous. Words break and words heal, we shouldn’t allow our so called nature ruin a godly friendship.
    Speak up when the Holyspirit tells you to and be quiet when He also tells you to.

    Thank you very much ma🙇

    Liked by 1 person

    1. BraimohGod'sglory Avatar

      Hmm follow the leading of the Holy Spirit. Thank you!😊


  13. Braimoh Ewemade. Avatar
    Braimoh Ewemade.

    Godly relationships are those relationships that influence us positively..
    Maintaining a victorious Christian lifestyle is constant work and battles will be easier when we have godly friends. The walk, work & battles become harder, difficult & seem impossible when we allow bad influence.
    The truth is that we are influenced by people around us; our childhood heroes, favourite preachers, parents, teachers and of course our role models.
    1 Corinthians 15 vs 33.
    Do not be mislead, bad company corrupts good manners.(Character)
    Note that: Any supposed ‘godly relationships’ that is leading to unrighteous living or other wise is a strong signal to WATCH OUT FOR AND BE READY TO QUIT.
    But you need to pray, talk it out(communicate) , forgive if wronged, while patiently waiting for positive results and when such is not yielding the desire results please, such relationship should be cut off.
    Amos3vs 3 .Can two walk together, unless they are agreed?
    In conclusion, godly relationships/friendships are motivating, inspiring, uplifting & forgiving. Anything short of these qualities are not worthy of keeping a relationship or friendship.
    Thanks Abba’s Girl 💕.
    More inspiration Gloryinspires!

    Liked by 1 person

    1. BraimohGod'sglory Avatar

      Yes! Some friendships are clearly or subtly toxic. You should definitely cut off from them with God’s guidance.
      Amen! Thank you for sharing this wisdom ma’am!❤


  14. Afigie Osheku Avatar
    Afigie Osheku

    Thank you for this GloryInspires..

    Friendship is more than just the name we call ourselves “Padi”, “Bestie” and so on..

    It’s a movement that we have decided follow, hence, those in the ship determine where it goes. However, there can always be an ordering or predetermined direction when we hand the ship over to Abba.

    When the ship is about to sink, we should always run to Abba..

    Thank you Glory

    Liked by 1 person

    1. BraimohGod'sglory Avatar

      Yes Friendship is deep!
      Thank you for sharing!😊


  15. chioma1506 Avatar

    I’ve had friends come and go and I’ve realized that it’s because I think they don’t care, so I don’t care also. I was wrong, communication was all it just needed. Sometimes, a friend could be going through the worse but not know how to express themselves properly but like @pure said in the comments, give them time to be themselves and come back but if they don’t, reach out to them.

    Thank you Isoken💕

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    1. BraimohGod'sglory Avatar

      I’m glad you picked something from this.
      I wish you the best in your friendships henceforth!
      Thank you for reading!❤


  16. Dare Avatar

    Friendship is everything, some stick closer than family self, and sometimes it can be challenging, we must do all we can to nurture and properly manage every relationships especially Friendship God brings our way, because someday they will be helpful.

    This is an inspiring piece, keep up the good work, more grace

    Liked by 1 person

    1. BraimohGod'sglory Avatar

      Friendship is really everything. Thank you for sharing. Amen!


  17. Pure Avatar

    You write beauifully well Gloryinspires.✴️✴️✴️✴️✴️
    One thing I’ve come to know is that we all long for that friend either a spouse or a friend that complements us in every aspect including understanding and communication but we end up trying to turn that person to who we are when we know they can’t be us, that’s where the trouble starts.
    One of the things I do when my friendship go wrong is:
    I give them time to be themselves while expecting them to come around and if they don’t, I reach out with a call, a visit or a treat without talking about the last rift we had but to talk about it on a later day when we are laughing and smiling.
    I try to complement that person, I look closely at their weakness and complement it, i.e a friend that doesn’t know how to call, I do the calling cos it’s what I enjoy and that’s what the friend admires; it’s alot easier when you know your friend’s personality.
    I capitalize more on my friend’s strength and never too quick to give advice except they need it. I listen more and I give suggestions and encouragement not advice.
    Once in awhile let your friends know how much you love and appreciate them in speech and in gift.
    Friends are assets I must say❤️❤️

    Liked by 1 person

    1. BraimohGod'sglory Avatar

      Wow! Embracing your friend’s personality is key. We need to understand that we are all uniquely made by God.

      Thank you for sharing! God bless you!❤


  18. chinezeibrahim848 Avatar

    Gigi be doing the most🥺❤️
    Thank you for this wonderful piece. I love you😁

    Liked by 1 person

    1. BraimohGod'sglory Avatar

      Thank God! Thank you for reading and I love you too!❤


  19. Victor Eneojo Adeyi Avatar
    Victor Eneojo Adeyi

    The wise saying of the book of proverbs hinted that “A man who has friend must show himself friendly”. The word *Must show* as used in that passage implies that friendship doesn’t run on default mode but takes our determination to see it work.

    Thanks GG 😘😘😘😘

    Liked by 1 person

    1. BraimohGod'sglory Avatar

      Friendship takes our determination to work.
      Amazing! Thank you for sharing!😊


  20. Sharon Avatar

    A very timely post.

    You could also pray concerning that friend if of course, you’re sure it isn’t one you should let go of.

    More grease to your elbow Gigi😇

    Liked by 1 person

    1. BraimohGod'sglory Avatar

      Praying for your friend can’t be underestimated.

      You made a very important point! There are some friends you should let go of. For example, toxic friends shouldn’t be entertained.


      1. Omonbude Victory Avatar

        This is really amazing
        Sometimes we leave when there is a quarrel, but that is part of the shared moment.

        Thank you so much God’s Glory

        Liked by 1 person

      2. BraimohGod'sglory Avatar

        I know right!
        Thank you very much too!


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