It is cheap to pardon than to resent. Forgiveness saves the expense of anger, the cost of hatred.”


Have you ever been so pissed with someone to the extent that you resolve not to talk to them again? Maybe they said something hurtful or did something that broke your trust. You said you forgave them but you just don’t talk to them anymore . . .
Well, this was me a couple of months ago. Someone said and did a lot of hurtful things to me.
I was very hurt and angry but I knew better than to not forgive them. So, I forgave them (or so I thought). I resolved in my heart not to talk to them though.
Everytime I saw them, I didn’t even say Hi. Everytime I saw them, my heart skipped a beat. Everytime I saw them, I remembered everything that played out when they hurt me and got angry all over again . . .

If you have ever been in my shoes, you will agree with me that these are all things that happen when you are holding a grudge against someone.

A grudge is a persistent feeling of ill will or resentment resulting from a past insult or injury.
Now that you know what a grudge is, let me tell you how it all ended. ..

The Holy Spirit nudged my heart several times. He kept insisting that I should forgive them but in my defense, I would say “I have forgiven them. I mean, we’re cool, I’m not just talking to them.”
I narrated all that transpired to my Mom and elder Brother. I actually wanted someone to back me up in my resolution but guess what? They did the direct opposite!

They told me I was still harboring anger and bitterness in my heart. This was taking me down Unforgiveness street. The devil was more than excited about this since he had gotten tools to work with.

To cut the long story short, they talked sense into my head and told me to truly forgive the person who had hurt me. I was to talk to them like nothing ever happened, take things back to how they were before it all happened. I was still to tread with caution though to avoid it repeating itself.

Do all that you can to live in peace with everyone.”

Romans 12:18 NLT

Did you notice that Scripture said ‘all that you can‘ ? This means that there are times it might be hard and seemingly impossible to live at peace. Especially when you want to live at peace with them but they don’t want to in return.

You might ask, “what do I do when this is the case?” The Scripture below gives us insight to what to do. Be good to them (though it can be hard) regardless of whether they respond immediately or not (Rom.12:21).

If thine enemy be hungry, give him bread to eat; and if he be thirsty, give him water to drink: For thou shalt heap coals of fire upon his head, and the Lord shall reward thee.

Proverbs 25:21‭-‬22 KJV

Forgiving someone that hurt you is really not about the other person. It is about what it does to you. It sets you free. You begin to have peace of mind. You find out that it is not so hard to greet them anymore even if they don’t act nicely to you.

Make allowance for each other’s faults, and forgive anyone who offends you. Remember, the Lord forgave you, so you must forgive others.”

Colossians 3:13 NLT

To forgive is to let go of a grudge or an offence. Unforgiveness will in turn mean not letting go of a grudge or an offence. It entails harbouring anger, hurt and hatred towards the person who offended you. This is not GOD’s will for you. He commanded us to forgive those who hurt us (Mark 11:25-26, Matt. 18:21-22).

We forgive others because Christ forgave us. Not necessarily only to receive His forgiveness. He forgave us despite our sins and wrongs.

Was it hard for me to forgive? Yes! It was very hard for me but GOD helped me do it anyway. He is ready to help you too if you let Him.

GOD wants you to forgive that person. Yes! That person who hurt you really bad. Don’t hold back. Ask the Holy Spirit to help you let go of the hurt and forgive them.

I know you have been inspired. Have you ever been in a situation where you had to make the decision to forgive? How did you go about it? I will like to know and feel free to share a story if you want. Please share this post with as many people as you can too.

You can also check out this article by Joyce Meyer on practical steps to forgiveness. Click here.

I’ll be in the comment section.

11 responses to “UNFORGIVENESS”

  1. Emmanuel Avatar

    I pray for more grace for u ijn 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾


  2. Braimoh Ewemade Avatar
    Braimoh Ewemade

    Forgiveness is a must as children of God.We just have to allow the Holy spirit to take control & also we must be willing to listen & follow the leading of the Holy Spirit .
    There is this inner peace that comes after forgiving any one that have offended us.
    May the Holy spirit continue to direct Us.
    Weldon Abbas Girl. 💕
    More inspirations in Jesus name Amen.

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    1. BraimohGod'sglory Avatar

      Hmm true! 💯
      Inner peace follows forgiveness.

      Thank you for sharing ma!❤️


  3. Deborah Ogochukwu Avatar
    Deborah Ogochukwu

    Thank you so much God’sglory, this is truly a blessing. There were times when I found myself really angry and bitter and definitely unwilling to forgive,what helped me was the fact that my thoughts and entire life belongs to JESUS, so I couldn’t stay angry because my feeling could not control my life,if it did then I am no longer spirit led,so as angry as I was it always helped to acknowledge that JESUS is in charge and I choose not to be led by my feelings,so if JESUS says forgive then all I do is cry for grace to forgive but never allow the feeling of anger and bitterness tell me what I can or what I cannot do.

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    1. BraimohGod'sglory Avatar

      Choosing to not be led by your feelings.
      How beautiful!

      Thank you so much for sharing ma! ♥️


  4. Tughobo Avatar

    Well it’s not always easy,but it’s part of God’s greatest commandments which is “love”, love entails forgiveness……….

    Liked by 2 people

    1. BraimohGod'sglory Avatar


      Do you mind expantiating on “love entails forgiveness”?


  5. Emmanuel Avatar

    Well, I’ve had experiences of being hurt too and sincerely speaking I didn’t want to forgive them at all but the more I harbour hatred, the more I lost my peace and tranquillity thus for the sake of me being ok and free, I had to let go of the pain in my soul by the help of God though. Thanks for this beautiful write-up

    Liked by 2 people

    1. BraimohGod'sglory Avatar

      It’s really difficult to forgive and let go of hurts without the help of the Holy Spirit.

      Thank you! ☺️


  6. God's Favour Avatar
    God’s Favour

    Nice one 👏👏👏
    It’s a really beautiful write up that would speak to the hearts of many triggering forgiveness by the help of the Holy Spirit✊

    Liked by 2 people

    1. BraimohGod'sglory Avatar

      Yes and Amen! 🙏🏽

      Thank you! ❤️


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